Divorce coaching, as defined by the American Bar Association, is a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns.

What Is The Difference Between a Divorce Coach, a Therapist and a Divorce Attorney?

​​A THERAPIST focuses on your past and how you got to where you are now, helps you work through emotions such as grief and loss, and helps you manage mental health issues such as depression and anxiety.
A DIVORCE ATTORNEY educates you about the law in your state, advises you how a judge would rule on your case, helps you get financial information from your spouse, negotiates your settlement and drafts any legal documents.
A DIVORCE COACH educates you about the divorce process, focuses on the future and how to achieve your goals, helps you manage other professionals you may need, helps you learn how to communicate with your spouse (or your ex) in an effective co-parenting relationship and helps you develop strategies to deal with a difficult/high conflict ex.

Finding the Right Divorce Coach for You

Important questions to ask a divorce coach before you start working with them: 
What are your credentials/affiliations?
How long have you been doing this work?
What is your experience working with separated or divorced clients?
Do you specialize in a particular area? (i.e. stepfamily issues, domestic violence, children and divorce, etc.)?
What are your hours?
Do you work evenings or weekends?
How many coaching sessions do I need to have?
Will you try to get my spouse and I to reconcile?
Will you keep our sessions confidential?
Can I call you between sessions? If so, do you charge for these calls?

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It's important to trust your own intuition and ask yourself if you feel comfortable with this person. Is this person professional in manner and appearance? Make sure the divorce coach hears what you're saying and helps you decide what's best for you. You don't want to be told what they think you should do. You want a divorce coach to help you understand what you want. If after two or three sessions you don't feel comfortable with the divorce coach, let them know it's not a good fit. There's nothing wrong with doing that.

Redesign Your Life and Find Your Best Self with Online Divorce Coaching Options:

Benefits of one-on-one divorce coaching:
  • Understand the divorce process and to decide which option (mediation, collaborative divorce, litigation, etc.) will be best for you and your family
  • Clarify the overwhelming and stressful process of divorce so that you can determine your priorities and develop a plan for your divorce in the most efficient, cost-effective and respectful way possible
  • Prepare yourself before your divorce so that you're better able to handle the divorce process
  • What you can do to save time and money in your divorce
  • Learn how to negotiate with your spouse
  • How to choose and work with your divorce lawyer
  • How to prepare for mediation
  • How to create a parenting schedule and parenting plan that works for your family
  • and so much more!​
Benefits of group coaching:group divorce coaching:
  • Connect with others going through similar experiences and feel less alone
  • Experience a collaborative learning environment where you gain insights and contributions of peers 
  • Lower cost than one-on-one divorce coaching with many of the same benefits
  • Share support and accountability for actions to help group members move forward towards their goals 

Co-parenting Coaching: a breath of fresh air for divorcing couples

Even though the marriage is over, parents may need help in improving their ability to work together. Co-parenting coaching is not designed to unnecessarily dwell on the events of the past, or put blame on either party for the failed marriage. Rather, co-parenting coaching is focused on looking forward and helping both parties to peacefully co-exist in a way where they can address issues concerning their children without having to spend endless time, money and negative energy on unnecessary battles and return trips to court. Parents learn ways to effectively communicate with each other and how to cooperate for the good of themselves and their children. Many reasonable parents find great success from co-parenting coaching.

Through divorce coaching you can redesign your life to find your best self, focus on your strengths and move forward!

books i recommend:

Bibliotherapy is a powerful method to create change in your life, especially when you're going through something as significant as divorce.  Below are lists of books on a variety of topics. Click on the link to be brought to Amazon to get more information on a book or to purchase it. I encourage you to read about the book and decide if it resonates with you.  Let me know what you think of any of the books you decide on!
If you're going through divorce: 
For high conflict divorce:
If you're working on your marriage: 
If you're working on yourself: